marriage: my subjective opinions

2 years ago, I found myself writing bout my marriage anniversary, this i wrote in multiply...

Thursday, May 22, 2008, approx at 4pm
With all the excitement for a sanguine might have, I proclaimed to friends at office that that day was my wedding anniversary

friends: owh, sweet!! congratulations!! any plan? candle light dinner? or else?
me: ?
friend: make a small concert for your hubby
me: too much fuss ...
friend: a cake will do then
me: o, lemme consider ...

same day at 8pm
me: Mum, apparently today my wedding anniversary
mum: owh, what date was your wedding?
me: mmm.... 21 ...
mum: it was yesterday...
me: oooo .... you're right....

Meanwhile my hubby had to take 5 minutes to recall our wedding's date when I mentioned about our anniversary, plus ... no 'congratulations' ever been spoken out loud
Looking back, we never actually look forward for anniversaries. As cliche as it may sound, the marriage we are in is worthier to be celebrated. For us being together for all these years are considered miracle!
As one of my friend's sister said to congratulate a newlywed: "Welcome to tornado!", I do consider marriage is one hell of a ride, but... I don't ride it alone at least!


and this one was written last year in facebook


Years of marriage will teach you these:

• It’s ok to do activities separately, it’s not like you won’t see your spouse tomorrow. If you don’t; you have yesterdays to be remembered
• Running out of something to talk? Never mind, you’ll have the rest of your life to figure it out
• Your couple will never change; you will have to understand (eventually…)
• It’s ok to snort, snore, fart, burp, or other grosse so-called-activities in the presence of your spouse. He/she already vowed to accept you in everything rite? No mistake done.
• Once you have child (-ren), your spouse is not the love of your life. You just have too many things in your hand
• You will treasure the-me-time with all your heart
• The first-two- years will be the most difficult time, the third year will be better or worse (depends whether you care or not on your spouse’s ‘lack-of-development-attitude’)
• Fights? It’s like strong spice to your food, it’s all about perspective and taste, whether you like it or hate it. Your call.
• It is you married (or to be married) couple who will need to fill it in :D. Enjoy!

This year? we'll see ... ^^